Settle in to enjoy her style treatise.
The 2nd time Bombshell writes, “After being featured as a Bombshell about a year ago, I thought it would be really cool to submit a post for Bombshell of the Day.”
” I wanted to share my style story, maybe others could relate. Or maybe someone would think I look crazy but see the confidence and be influenced to be fearless and take some risks with their style.”
“Needless to say, that wasn’t the exact outcome; I wasn’t bothered by the comments about my looks because as I described in my feature, I wasn’t born in the US and I don’t have a conventional type of beauty at all.”
” Most of my life has been comprised of being made fun of, you literally learn to brush it all off once you find that love in yourself and all your quirks.”
“What I was upset about, and frankly still bothered by, was when people said things such as “you need to look less scattered and disorganized”, “these looks would be saved by a sleek heel” “step out of the ‘90s” etc etc.”
” The reason I was bothered was because, since when did fashion have all of these rules!? Since when did fashion and your personal style have so many boundaries, demands, and directions? This is something I have never understood, why does your self-expression have to be restricted?”
“How can you define style as organization? What fun is there in always being in heels because apparently “The Rules of Style” says your look’s not complete without it? In always looking like you have it all together? In your hair only being pulled back or in nice neat curls?”
” In only wearing muted tones and nude lipsticks because someone tells you that’s all that “looks right” on you? What fun is there in listening to others to dictate how you dress? How you feel about yourself? How to live your damn life?”
” Life is already controlled by rules and standards, dressing shouldn’t be a chore as well.
“You know how we women say we don’t dress for men? Well I don’t dress for your approval and you shouldn’t dress for mine.”
“If everyone from the DMV claims my story, that’s fantastic but it doesn’t change anything at all.”
” As I grow, of course my style will consequently evolve. I’ll more than likely look at an old outfit I’d thought was a hit and think it was a total, heart-wrenching miss. And there’s nothing wrong with that! But I won’t be restricted by imaginary rules based on the perspective of another.”
“***And quick tidbit, it’s also really silly to make assumptions off of people’s lives simply based on how they appear. I actually do not attend Howard U, coincidentally I actually go to a PWI, so you can see how far off you were from that one.”
” But everyone’s a critic right? J And someone’s probably going to say I’m really hurt or something just to discredit everything lol and that’s fine as well.(Sorry if this was eternal! Had to get that off my chest).”
Vent, girl! Well, I like your style. You make flats fashionable, which can be a feat. But you work it!
See Damii’s first submission here. Read more on Dami’s blog, Soul of a Lion, and follow her on Instagram @missusmonroe.
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