Ever since she began dating Kanye West, Kim Kardashian has noticeably started taking more than a few style cues from her man. Her looks have become darker and a bit moody. She wears a lot less makeup. And she now seems to cling to brands, colors, and fabrics her man cosigns (Givenchy, Balmain, Kanye West…all black and leather everything):
Hate or love her, Kim has long been revered for her style…pre-Kanye. Her bright and blazer filled ensembles were cute enough. Her long voluminous curls were the inspiration for many Youtube hair tutorials, and her signature smoky-eye was recreated by throngs of makeup enthusiasts.
Perhaps ‘Ye felt it was imperative to try to “upgrade” her look, and bring her to the utmost level of his definition of chic. That is understandable. But is that his place? Should a man be allowed to tell the woman in his life what to wear? Should a woman let him? When I say tell, I don’t mean a simple suggestion here or there. I mean a full-on overhaul of her wardrobe.
I have personally grappled with this issue before. A boyfriend of mine constantly felt the need to add in his two cents on the outfits I chose to wear. I slowly began to style myself differently. I began to choose items with his suggestions in mind. It was all in a quest to please him, make him happier. Needless to say, I was not happy. I felt more confident in myself when I would put together outfits I loved. I got more compliments as well. That resulted in me fiercely guarding my personal style. It was too valuable to me.
To be quite honest, the bra-burning feminist that lives deep within me now cringes at the thought of my man (or anyone for that matter), being under the false assumption that they have a say in how I choose to dress MY body. That’s just not going to fly. Step away from my shoes, and stop rummaging through my panty drawer. I ’m not a 7-year-old child that is incapable of dressing herself. No, I do not want to wear ill-fitting pants. No, I do not want to wear leather in the summer. Deal.
I firmly believe that a person’s style is a direct reflection of who they are. As a woman, or as a person in general, if you allow someone to change those small, yet definitive details of your being, who are you? Aren’t you opening up yourself to become a new person with each passing relationship?
You can dismiss my thoughts as being overly dramatic if you wish. But to me, giving another person the authority to rule your choice in clothing is a slippery slope on the road to losing your self identity.
What do you think? Is it okay for men to dictate what their women wear? Should we be more open to change? Is it not a big deal at all?